Navigating Nosy Questions and Unsolicited Advice

Hello, dear friends of Silver and Sensational! It’s Lois Mills here, back after a brief hiatus, and boy, do I have some updates for you. As many of you know, I’m in the midst of preparing for a big move to Paris, and let me tell you—it’s been quite the journey already. Between downsizing my belongings and navigating all the logistics, there’s been a lot to manage. But today, I want to talk about something that’s come up repeatedly during this process: dealing with those well-meaning but sometimes frustrating comments and advice from others—the "need-to-know-it-alls."

The Challenge of Nosy Questions from the "Need-to-Know-It-Alls"

One of the most surprising aspects of preparing for this move has been the sheer number of questions and concerns people have about my decision. It seems everyone has an opinion, and not all of them are particularly helpful. The "need-to-know-it-alls" are those who feel compelled to ask every possible question, often diving into personal details that aren’t really their business. For example, a dear friend recently expressed concern about me moving to Paris alone. She was worried that I’d be isolated or lonely, without anyone nearby to support me. While I appreciate the concern, I couldn’t help but feel a little frustrated. After all, I’ve lived a full life and made many big decisions on my own—why should this one be any different?

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Unsolicited Advice: A Common Experience

Alongside the nosy questions, there’s also the unsolicited advice that often follows. Whether it’s moving to a new city, trying a new hobby, or making any significant life change, people often feel the need to offer their two cents. And while advice can sometimes be valuable, it can also feel intrusive, especially when it comes from a place of fear or misunderstanding. It’s as if some people can’t quite grasp that, as older women, we’re still fully capable of making our own choices and charting our own paths.

Trusting Our Own Wisdom

The reality is, we’ve all spent decades gaining experience and wisdom. We know ourselves better than anyone else, and we’re more than equipped to make decisions that are right for us. Moving to Paris is something I’ve thought long and hard about. I’ve done my research, I’ve made my plans, and I’m confident that this is the right step for me. So while I appreciate the concern, I’m also learning to gently but firmly set boundaries when it comes to unsolicited advice—and managing those nosy questions from the need-to-know-it-alls.

Embracing the Adventure

As I continue to prepare for this new chapter, I’m focusing on the excitement and possibilities that lie ahead. Paris is a city I’ve always dreamed of living in, and I’m thrilled to finally make that dream a reality. I’ll keep you all updated as things progress, and I’m looking forward to sharing this adventure with you.

So, to anyone out there dealing with similar experiences—whether it’s nosy questions, unsolicited advice, or just the doubts of others—remember to trust yourself. You’ve got this. We’ve got this. And together, we’ll continue to live Sensationally.

P.S. If you’re interested in hearing more about my thoughts on dealing with "need-to-know-it-alls" and unsolicited advice, be sure to check out my latest YouTube video where I dive even deeper into this topic. Click here to watch now!

Talk soon!

🤍,

Lois Mills