When People Let You Down: Finding Grace in Disappointment

Hello, lovely readers.

Today, I want to share something that’s been heavy on my heart. As many of you know, my move to France is taking far longer than I ever anticipated—not just because of logistical challenges, but also because of the ways people have let me down along the way. I had hoped to be writing to you from a little café, sipping espresso and watching the world go by. Instead, I’m still here, facing obstacles I never expected and, frankly, dealing with some profound disappointment.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn recently is how to navigate the hurt that comes when people fall short of their promises. Whether it’s unmet expectations, logistical hiccups, or realizing that someone isn’t who you thought they were, these moments can feel like a punch to the gut.

But I’ve come to understand that there’s power in how we choose to respond.

1. Let Yourself Feel It

Disappointment is a natural emotion, and it’s okay to feel hurt. Give yourself the grace to acknowledge those feelings. Bottling them up only makes them harder to manage later. For me, this has meant journaling my thoughts or simply venting to a trusted friend.

2. Set Boundaries

It’s important to protect your energy. If someone repeatedly lets you down, it’s okay to step back and set boundaries. This doesn’t mean you have to cut ties entirely, but it does mean being mindful of what you’re willing to accept in your relationships.

3. Focus on the Helpers

Even in tough times, there are always people who show up. They may not always be the ones you expected, but their kindness and support are invaluable. Cherish these relationships and lean on them when you need to.

4. Keep Your Eyes on the Goal

Every setback is a chance to reassess and refocus. My dream of moving to France hasn’t disappeared—it’s just taking a little longer to reach. This delay, as frustrating as it is, is also giving me time to prepare and strengthen my resolve.

5. Let It Go

Lastly, remember that not everything is within your control. People’s actions often say more about them than they do about you. Choose to forgive—not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind.

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If you’d like to learn more about why I’m planning to move to France and what inspired this big decision, I encourage you to check out my video where I share the full story. Click here to watch.

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I’ll also be diving deeper into these recent challenges in my next video, so be sure to join me for a more personal chat. In the meantime, I’d love to hear how you’ve handled disappointment in your life. Let’s share and grow together—because that’s what this beautiful community is all about.

Thank you for being a part of my journey, through the ups and the downs. Your support means more to me than I can put into words.

With love,

Lois 🤍